Romancing Your Husband

Romance your husband to improve your relationship for the long term to keep it fresh and vibrant for longevity as well as making you both happier and more fulfilled. When you romance your husband you give him permission to return the favor for an improvement you will both cherish and maintain the happy couple you were when you first married.

What do you think of when you hear the term “romance”? Is it a bit old fashioned or out of date? Well the truth remains that romance is an essential part of your married life and should only be ignored at your own peril. At your peril simply means divorce, estrangement, unhappiness of either yourself or your husband or both. Romance will not cure all that ails a relationship but it can go a long way towards bringing a man and a woman together and softening the complexities of modern day life. If that sounds pollyannaish then so be it. On the other hand consider what romance really means. Walking together holding hands is one bit of romance that is not really overly outlandish but yet it does more than cause a husband and wife to touch each other. Or is it? Why do many women go out of their way to hold hands in the mall, on a walk or simply when they are together? Because it is a simple, real method of connecting with another person.

Connection is a funny word, or is it? Connecting with a person might mean getting a phone call and that means you made a connection over the phone lines. Calling your mother and speaking to her may mean making a connection. Is that an important or not an important method of human existence? Are we not meant to connect on some level? The answer must surely be yes!

So how do you romance your husband? The answer is incredibly easy yet we find it so remarkably difficult. Romance equals connections as it also means communicating, verbally and non verbally. So if it is so easy why is it so many couples end up in divorce or being non communicative. As a divorce lawyer for many years I was always so amazed at why couples found themselves so disassociated all of a sudden. What happened to this couple that at one time was so in love. Was that memory a lie or was today a lie? What occurred that caused this lack of ability to communicate and connect? Not to oversimplify but they simply forgot how to connect in some ways due to a lack of desire and then a loss of will to do so.

You see romance takes a lot of work and energy and anyone who has been in a relationship will admit that romancing their mate was and is full of time and attention sex positions and after we get married some simply get tired, lazy and unwilling to make the same commitment to their spouse. When you first met you would shower, put on cologne or perfume, make sure you looked amazing and that was only a part of the commitment to your future spouse. You made dinner plans or cooked dinner, bought a special wine or other drink, planned the menu, went to a movie or perhaps played one on the vcr and then there was the love making. Whew, that was only one night. Rinse, repeat over and over. No wonder you got tired.

Romance is all about planning, working, creating, shopping, giving, helping, thinking and that is only the beginning. How about saving, scheming, expanding, contracting, exercising and then there is more. Romance is a lot of work and that is only the beginning. Then there are kids, house payments, grandparents, parties for the kids and the list goes on. You get tired don’t you? So what if you lay back for a while and then a while becomes a long time and then before you know it, your kids are graduating from high school and there are more plans and parties, schemes and watch out, here comes retirement.

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